Melbourne: It’s the age-old power struggle that blights millions of marriages. And now, the reason behind feuding between mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law has been answered — wives are programmed to dislike their partner’s mom.
In a new book, just released in Australia, Terri Apter, a psychologist and senior tutor at Newnham College, Cambridge in the UK, has suggested that even if a wife or girlfriend wanted to like her in-law, she already had an expectation they wouldn’t get along, reports the Daily Telegraph. However, Aussie experts reckon men are to be blamed.
Relationships Australia NSW CEO Anne Hollonds said: “It can be a great source of conflict and part of the problem sometimes stems from issues between the mother and son. The (issues) have not been resolved when he starts a new relationship.”
Apter’s analysis revealed that almost two-thirds of women complained they had suffered long-term stress because of friction with their husband’s mother. She says both women assumed that each was undermining the other.
“This mutual unease may have less to do with actual attitudes and far more to do with persistent female stereotypes that few of us manage to shake off completely,’’ she said. “Both mother and wife are struggling to achieve the same position in the family - primary woman,” she added. ANI
